Wo(a)ndering thoughts!!!

Be A Man! have you heard of this phrase? May be not if you are a Woman. It is only applicable for Men as in male gender isn't??  Don't we all have both Testosterone and Estrogen?  Depends on which one is stronger, we decide who we are right?? Gender equality is debated for decades and it is still a HOT topic.. In western world, everyone "acts" like gender equality is the norm, but it exists subtly and strongly everywhere.. Especially for some with higher testosterone levels, it even takes a toll on their ego if Women is equally intellectual or successful.. Women in the "Male" dominated fields (Leaders/Politicians/Police/Law/Media/ every other field for that matter) have to act like one and be like one.. Pressure for them is emotionally high, they have to "Be a man" all the time.. This post is not about gender equality, lot of people already discussed/talked/fought for it.  Im here to talk about Men in women "dominated" field aka ho

Its end of 2017, its time to celebrate!!! What are we celebrating!?  If you list down all the things you have done this year by day and month, you will be surprised to see it yourself how much you have done, changed, tolerated, grew, learnt, redefined, helped, blessed, laughed, cried .. Any feel-good times and the bad times to be thankful for.. This holiday season is to think about all those times and celebrate them. Celebration will give a sense of achievement. Resolutions : I don’t usually set any goal for myself; I think goals will limit my potential or worse I get disappointed with myself for not keeping up. We all have enough of that depressing/disappointing things happening around us. I think I will take my life as it comes and be surprised on the ' presents ' life throws at me..   Personally :  I had lot of ups and downs this year just like every other year.. Every year when I look back I only see my Ups.. Downs are definitely the ones that gave me the strengt

Lyrics can be so dominant sometimes, you tend to forget about the music in the background and just concentrate on those lines.. Good lyrics composed in a bad music will never get attention. However, good music with good or bad or no lyrics can get its attention. That’s power of Music. If the lyrics are in the language I’m familiar with, I try to listen to the lines. I enjoy the song even more if I like the lyrics. This post is yet another A’s journey on sharing music with me.. A is my companion when it comes to listening to music at home.. I like to tell him stories about a song or an Artist or anything that keep us talking. We usually listen to the radio that plays peppy songs and sing-a-long when at home or on the drive.. This write-up is only few incidents from this year.. Thinking of them gives me smiles (even a giggle). I thought I will make a note for my hay day.. End of last summer, one of those days we were listening to 'Hero' by Enrique on repeat mode. I was a

Its high time I changed my title card.. Blogspot has limited options to do a big "makeover".. But whatever inbuilt options I had, I picked the one that suited.. I think I will slowly improvise it as it suits my need. Tada!! Introducing my New theme with a New blog title.. I started this blog as a sarcastic response to people who were curious about my life when I was a SAHM - "what do you do all day??" .. My fav response was  Im busy doing nothing ..I still feel my life can be explained with just those 4 words. But friend of mine suggested that I must change my blog title that reflects my present-ME..I really appreciate her feedback and now what you see is not just the title change and also change in the look and feel.. Im now ready to move away from my personal favorite life tagline BUSY DOING NOTHING  to WO(A)NDERING THOUGHTS .  As my mind is always  Wondering and Wandering , I thought this mirrored my mind perfectly... what do you think? More posts comin

Yesterday I participated in a discussion on ‘ Dowry Violence in Australia’ organised by Human Rights-Australiasia as part of 16 days of activism campaign against gender- violence. Discussion panel had students from different countries (India, SriLanka, Pakistan, African, Afghan). It was a open discussion however this event is to get youth perspective on Dowry Violence. What is Dowry? Most of us from South Asian Community know what it is, but let me  just  explain what it is in simple terms for my friends who are new to hearing the word Dowry. History: Dowry used to be a simple gesture of giving gifts to brides by bride’s parents during the wedding..Gifts is something that bride’s parents can afford & willing to give to the bride. it started in those  days when women didn’t have rights to any assets nor had any rights to work. Gifts are anything from pots and pans to jewellery depending on bride’s parents affordability. Dowry is an “EXTRA” or “ADDITIONAL” gift to t

My baby A has graduated from his kinder today. He crossed the cub stage and going to Primary School starting from Feb 2018.. What can I say? It is emotional and nerve-racking for the mum. Schools are meant to be their REAL world. He seems to care-less, it is me and my mother’s instinct worries about everything. He is neither overly excited like he is going on a Holiday nor underplaying the curiosity when he talks about his new school here and there.. Down under especially in Victoria, Kids start with 4yr old Kinder garden (not compulsory although most do) offered by public/private child cares or independent/government schools and it is 15hrs per week .Kids start schooling from Primary school (Foundation Year then Grades 1  to 6 ) and move on to Secondary school(Grades 7  to 12) . As part of this Kinder to Foundation transition, most schools organise one-hour transition sessions once every week in Nov to spend time in the school and a half-day orientation program in

Everything starts with nothing isn’t? Everything has one last time and THE END. Everything in-between is neither truth nor a lie, it is for takers perception. Perception comes from one’s own experience,   Understanding reflects oneself.. Who decides what is right and what is wrong? Judgement is again Perception. Perception comes from Convenience Truth or Lie, it echoes only Convenience.   Now you decide, What goes in-between !     #Everythingisnothing #Whatisin-between #RandomMusings

Life doesn’t stop ‘coz you cared less life doesn’t stop ‘coz you gave no attention life doesn’t stop ‘coz you don’t speak up for me life doesn’t stop ‘coz you are not my side life doesn’t stop ‘coz you stopped talking to me life doesn’t stop ‘coz you don’t exists my life... rather be a fruitful seed than a rotten egg 

I used to be that person who remembers every detail of an incident/requirement in my project/meeting notes/an issue at work/an email which came few months back etc., Not just remembers, remember to the last detail. Senior colleague of mine used to check with me the recap of last meeting before we meet our vendors. Yes, I am so proud of it..Why not!!! ..  I’m sure what you are thinking now “Where are you going with self-praising post of yours’ ?”   Okay, I think I’m becoming a DORY!!  What!!!.Okay, NOT that dramatic yet!! But seems like I’m getting there. Those who haven’t watched Finding Dory yet, I’m talking about Forgetfulness or Absent-mindedness !! Recently, I'm experiencing lot of  'Oopsy I forgot' moments especially I forget where I keep my precious things, my important appointments, my tasks and actions. Remembering the last detail become thing of the  past. One good example from last week is when I forgot A’s water bottle to his tennis class.. How did I d

Read She-who lost her identity before you read on this post, She choose to ignore her self-interest  'coz that satisfied some ego, She choose to ignore her self-respect  'coz her confidence threatened some, She choose to change her priorities 'coz life demanded it, She choose  not to argue with the blockheads, Is she numb?  NO !! She is Fierce, She is Colourful, She is the Hidden Strength, She is a Warrior.. #womenPower #Warrior #DontUnderEstimate #SheisGoGetter #sheisStrong PC:Google images

She used to be smart, She used to have lot of friends, She used to have a life of her own, She used to have lazy days, She used to argue brilliantly, She used to talk to her cousins for hours of nothingness, She used to have an identity of her own.. Now what’s changed? She is Married!! Self-respect is rude to consider, Self-interest took a back seat, Still looking for her lost identity, Her intelligence and Smartness Challenged and Criticized all the time... What’s left is unexplored “Should-Have's” and “Regrets”!!   #Not-cliché   # WomenIssuesAreNotOverrated   # stillHappens   # NoCulturalBoundaries # universalTruth   # lifeOfMarriedwomen     Pic: Google Images

Boys are on their vacation and I'm home alone. I have done this before, but this time the difference is the weekend. Last  time I didn't have to spend my weekend alone!!!  It was just weekdays(workdays), so I was occupied. Its been a week already,I can't believe how time flew. I have to be honest, I'm enjoying this lone time. I get to walk a lot to/from station which I can't do when I have to pick A up after work. I don't have to rush to/from work.. And I can cook something simple and relax. watch movies/TV during DAY time!!! <unlike wait till A goes to bed>.. I sound silly. Its true, I think small break like this make you aware of the small things in life and appreciate them.. Its all because I know for sure A is getting completely pampered and taken care off. No hard feelings/guilt/worry.. And thanks to A and G , they make it look very simple for me. I see their smiling faces in the pics they share and I smile ' This is how I planned this br

Kannamma, Remember your first flight with me when you were 11 months old, I was nervous as hell. Nevertheless, you were so playful and composed, not at all naughty or cranky. You slept most of the time and made my trip lot easier. It is always a pleasant trip when travelling with you. I must admit you are a natural traveller. Be it a new place or a new journey you are always excited and on-board. You started sitting on your own seat (in flight) when you were 2yrs. You even refused to share your seat with me (it was aisle seat for both of us – a walkway in between us) . You sat on your own, watching some cartoon and slept without a fuss. I just sat there looking at you whole night thinking you might fall down in your sleep.   Our first trip alone to Japan with our best friends, it was such a pleasant memory you and our darling Y created except for the fact you both literally fought every day for the right side window seat. You heard it right. There are two windows in the

Day: Another day at home ; Place: Dining Table Who: A & I are enjoying our evening tea sitting across each other. A: Ma, How was your day?  Me: Yea I'm ok babe A: Are you sure ? Me: Yea sure Pause & I see a cheeky smile A: So how is it going with that LADY at work?  I smiled and he had his cheeky smile.. A:  Are you getting along well these days?   <Hello!! Who is mom here?? > Now he is just having a naughty laugh .. Me: I'm ok and moreover she moved on ..She doesn't work with me anymore..  A: Why? <looking curious> Me: I don't know.  A: You are ok then.  Me :Yes We both just laughed..  It might well like look a Gossip, but I felt happy when he remembered to check on me and my wellness..PS: just recording this to read it to myself when he gets to teen and act all Cool to care less.. Going to miss the boys and all our evening chats for a while (14 DAYSSSS!!!).. Its VACATION time to India.. All the preparation for last f

My day doesn't go without having a Aww or Sigh  mommy moment.  Just amazed by A's cheekiness as you know from my prev posts and his clever responses. Sometimes I forget I'm a parent, I give up and laugh by his response.. I’m not alone in this, I’m sure every parent go through this.. Here I'm capturing my recent Aww and Sigh mommy moments. This poster below just reminds me of A. Also I couldn't get anything better for this post..  PC:google images/Pinerest - This totally reminds me of A!! I start with my Awww moments Last weekend, I had a bad headache and I could feel the pain in my eyes..We were going to a b’day party, pain didn’t go away even after taking the meds.. A was so sweet to share his chocolate from his  goodie bag. I don’t know whether it’s the chocolate or the love(just saying!!) , it eased my pain.. I read about it later, apparently chocolates have an impact on headache!! Next day when we went out , he carefully packed a chocolate fo

Before I start off , I want to clarify the title. No! I’m not going to talk about gender of my next child and Nope! I’m not pregnant either..I know I disappointed you, next time you better know me before you expect!!  haha.. not kidding.. What am I talking about!? Obviously about Friends.. Does it matter whether they are Girls or boys? Personally if you'd ask me, I don't think so.. Friends are friends.. I still think I had best of conversations/arguments with my friends who are both boys and girls. And for some reason, when I moved to OZland my circle reduced to few best friends who understands and knows exactly what I want to hear from them when I need them!!.. That's me!! I started thinking about this when A stopped playing with his kinder GF- E.. He used to adore her like anything, play with her on the days she is in(she is not full time in his kinder) and wouldn’t stop talking about her.   ‘E’ is such a lovely lil one with cute smile. Last week she showed